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SilverSinglesvsOurTime

SilverSingles wins if you want a personality questionnaire doing the filtering. OurTime wins if you want to browse a slightly larger, more casual over-50 crowd yourself.

Updated 2026-09-06
Pick
SilverSingles
  • You want matching done for you rather than browsing
  • You are looking for something serious and long term
  • You want more complete profiles to read
  • You are happy to sit through a personality questionnaire
  • You value a calmer, more filtered experience
Pick
OurTime
  • You would rather search and browse yourself
  • You are open to companionship or friendship too
  • You want a slightly larger over-50 crowd
  • You want to be looking within minutes of signing up
  • You prefer a lighter, more informal feel
Key takeaways
  • SilverSingles matches you from a questionnaire. OurTime lets you browse and search.
  • Both need a paid plan to message freely, so neither is a good free option.
  • OurTime's crowd is slightly larger and more casual. SilverSingles skews more serious.
  • Profile quality is better on SilverSingles because the signup asks for more.
How we compared

Four weeks on both with the same photos and the same stated goal, tracking match relevance, how much is locked behind a plan and how active each local pool really was

Last checked

2026-09-06

Disclosure

Some links here may earn us a commission. It never decides the winner. Both apps are judged on how we would advise a friend.

Scorecard

Scored on the same seven things

User base
Winner · OurTime
SilverSingles3.8
OurTime4.0

OurTime is the slightly larger of the two and a bit broader in intent. Both are strongest in built-up areas.

Ease of use
Winner · OurTime
SilverSingles4.0
OurTime4.1

Both are straightforward and readable. OurTime gets you looking sooner because there is no long questionnaire.

Profile quality
Winner · SilverSingles
SilverSingles4.0
OurTime3.8

SilverSingles asks for more at signup, so profiles carry more. OurTime profiles are often shorter.

Free features
Tie
SilverSingles3.0
OurTime3.0

Level, and low. Both let you browse and signal interest, but real messaging sits behind a plan.

Paid value
Winner · SilverSingles
SilverSingles3.5
OurTime3.4

Close. SilverSingles gives you matching on top of messaging, OurTime gives you contact and little else.

Safety and privacy
Winner · SilverSingles
SilverSingles4.1
OurTime3.9

Both moderate reasonably and offer reporting and blocking. SilverSingles' slower signup deters throwaway accounts.

Best-fit accuracy
Winner · OurTime
SilverSingles4.0
OurTime4.2

OurTime's own filters are effective if you know what you want. SilverSingles is good but you are trusting the questionnaire.

Side by side
DimensionSilverSinglesOurTime
Best forSerious long-term dating over 50Browsing and companionship over 50
How you matchPersonality questionnaire suggestionsSearch, filters and browsing
Signup effortLong, expect a proper sittingShort
Profile depthFullerLighter
Free versionBrowse, like and wink onlyBrowse and test, contact limited
Paid plansPremium, varies by country and lengthOne, three or six month tiers
ToneConsidered and seriousFriendly and informal
PaceSlower, a few matches a dayAs fast as you browse
By scenario

Which wins for…

You want a relationship

Winner · SilverSingles

The questionnaire and the crowd both point that way, and matches arrive pre-filtered for it.

You want companionship or friendship

Winner · OurTime

OurTime's crowd is more open to meeting for company rather than romance, and nobody finds the question odd.

You are travelling

Winner · OurTime

Browsing and searching another area is easier than waiting for suggestions to catch up.

You live in a small town

Winner · OurTime

OurTime's slightly larger pool holds up marginally better. Both go quiet in rural areas.

You are over 60

Winner · SilverSingles

SilverSingles' guided flow and fuller profiles suit people who would rather not browse for hours.

You hate small talk

Winner · SilverSingles

Questionnaire-shaped matches and longer profiles give you plenty to open with.

You are on a tight budget

Winner · OurTime

Neither is good value free, but OurTime's shorter plans make a low-commitment trial easier.

You have very little free time

Winner · SilverSingles

Being handed a few matches beats browsing when you only get ten minutes a day.

Cost

What each one costs

TierSilverSinglesOurTime
FreeProfile, likes and winks, replies to paying membersBrowsing and profile, contact limited
Entry paid tierPremium, shortest plan availableOne month tier
Mid tierLonger Premium plan, lower monthly rateThree month tier
Top tierLongest Premium plan, cheapest per monthSix month tier, cheapest per month
Typical commitmentOften three, six or twelve monthsOne, three or six months

Cheapest way to run each: Sign up free on both and count how many active local profiles you can see in a week. Then buy the shortest plan on the one with more people, not the cheapest per month.

Both price by region, plan length and promotion, and longer plans are the norm. Check the renewal terms at checkout before committing.

How each site actually works

SilverSingles starts with a personality questionnaire and then sends you a set of recommended matches shaped by it, with search available but secondary. OurTime puts browsing and search first and lets you go looking straight away. One rewards patience at signup, the other rewards knowing what you want.

The paywall is the same problem on both

Neither free tier lets you hold a proper conversation. SilverSingles gives you likes and winks and lets you reply to paying members. OurTime lets you browse and signal interest. Treat both as paid products and use the free week only to count how many active people are near you.

Who you actually meet

Both crowds are over 50 and mostly looking for something real rather than casual. SilverSingles skews a little more serious and a little more written. OurTime is broader and more relaxed, with more people open to companionship or friendship as well as romance.

What you get for paying

SilverSingles Premium buys messaging plus the matching that is the point of the product. OurTime's tiers mostly buy contact, with plan length as the main variable. Neither subscription can conjure people into a quiet area, so check activity before you commit.

Safety and expectations

Both moderate reasonably, offer reporting and blocking, and neither runs background checks. Romance scams target this age group, so never move money, be wary of anyone refusing a video call, and keep the first meeting somewhere public.

Use both?

Rarely worth paying for both.

These two are aimed at the same people and the crowds overlap heavily. Sign up free on both to compare local activity, then commit to one for three months rather than splitting your attention and your budget.

  • Free on both for the first week, purely to count real local profiles.
  • Pay for the one where you saw more people online.
  • Revisit in three months rather than running them in parallel.
If neither fits

Try something else

  • You want a larger serious-dating pool at any age
    Match
  • You want compatibility-led long-term matching
    eHarmony
  • You want a modern prompt-based app
    Hinge
  • You want a free option to test your area
    Plenty of Fish
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