Dating psychology
Why modern dating feels the way it does, and what the research actually says.
Why we do thisWhy Modern Dating Feels So Hard: The Data and the Psychology
Most people using dating apps report enjoying them less than they used to, while still using them. That gap is not a personal failing, it comes from a handful of structural features that were not present when people met through friends, work and neighbourhoods.
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Why we do thisDating as a non-binary person: a practical guide
Dating apps were mostly built around a binary, and it shows, in signup forms, in filters, and in the assumptions baked into matching. But some apps have genuinely caught up. This guide covers which ones handle gender identity properly, how to build a profile that does the filtering for you, and the safety habits worth keeping.
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Less dataBias and Fairness in Dating Apps: How Ranking Really Works
Dating apps rarely encode prejudice on purpose. They learn it from millions of swipes and then repeat it back at scale, faster and more efficiently than any individual could. Understanding that loop explains most of what feels unfair about modern dating apps.
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